It’s OK to Be Busy

” Sorry I can’t. Im doing yoga, blogging, working, cooking, finding passions.”

Talking about something that has been on my mind and heart for awhile. I have run into so many friends over the past few months, instantly feeling the guilt rising as I know we haven’t spent any time together for far too long. I haven’t reached out to make time to ask about their lives, to catch up, hang out.

It bothered me as I slowly felt my pool of friends that I used to spend time with on the daily dwindle into oblivion, and you know what? It’s ok.

Positively speaking, It’s ok to be busy. It’s ok to not explain to anyone what you’ve been up to.  I finally decided that to make the necessary progress in my life, I needed a change and redirection of focus.

Personally I needed to create that space for growth. I needed to choose to do yoga, start a blog, journal, self-develop, plan dreams and make changes..

I realized that happy hours and friday nights out are not in alignment with the plans and dreams I am working to achieve. The social pressures to be involved, spend money, drink, eat, socialize are all there to fill blank spaces. To fuel the ego and not the soul.

I decided that being busy was something I wasn’t guilty of anymore, but actually satisfied with myself for making stronger choices to invest in change and put my present moments towards something that would help me in my future.

Balance is key. I have worked to find good people that I can do the things I love with, like surfing and yoga. I encourage all the people in my life to stay focused and keep working to make your dreams happen. Friends that support personal growth and working to strength their mind+body+soul.

 

 

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Lessons the Waves Taught Me

For the love of the ocean I was drawn to play in the waves. Living in a sleepy beach town, in California, I watched the magical ritual of all different souls connect through the movement of waves.

I want to share these lessons and gifts of surfing because maybe there is something that you might want to start, but you are afraid of failing. It can be anything new that feels intimidating.  Sometimes it is the very thing that scares you is exactly what you need. Although it was a bit intimidating at first, I am forever grateful that I began surfing for all the lessons it has taught me about life.

1.  Have fun and don’t take it too seriously

There are loads of surfers out there who will try to make surfing a serious sport. In fact, it can be serious if you want it to be. But just like in life, no one makes it out without falling. sometimes you only have a certain amount of time on the wave. Why not make it a creative expression and flow to the rhythms with harmony.  That is exactly life. We only have a short speck of time here, make it yours, and don’t take it too seriously.

2. You are capable of so much more than you think

I have often surprised myself with things that I never thought I would do. I remember when I first started surfing someone told me, ” you’ll never be able to go down the line”. That feels like so long ago, but I believed in myself and found inspiration in people who encouraged me to keep trying. Feel the freedom beyond limits and imagine all the things you can accomplish.

3. Practice makes perfect

Try again and again. Every time there is an opportunity to go out and practice, do it! Feel all the ways to use surfing as an outlet of expression for emotion.

4. To appreciate something bigger than myself

Being out in the ocean in all different conditions has humbled me many days, and given me the opportunity to feel the power of something over me. The ocean and water is a great force that should always be respected. Feel the clarity, cleansing, and raw power of the elements surrounding you.

5. It is all about balance and breath

Paddling out, you lose your breath and the excitement rushes over. A lump in the distance and your heart starts to race with anticipation. The truth is that the best way is to become one wight he waves and water. Breathing deeply and calm. Finding grace and balance when its time to take off.

I hope that everyone finds passions that sets your soul on fire, teaches you about life, and prepares you mentally and physically for everything to come. I encourage you to find your own connection with nature and yourself through something you love doing.

Without Swords

Growing up, I was the protector. I was always looking out for the liars and cheaters of the world. It consumed me.

With every human interaction, I quickly analyzed each word. Each aspect of personality was under my observation. Quickly determining if this person was worth letting in. Using my judgments of past observations and experiences to decide if my heart would be open or closed.

Don’t get me wrong. It is natural and human to protect, and observe. These skills should be used in a logical and sensible way to ensure physical and mental safety.

It was when this process became a tool for the ego. The ego uses these judgments to see if a person’s actions, opinions, thoughts are harmful to the ego.

This process is completely and utterly draining. It takes away that everything that love offers to the soul. Carrying swords, ready to use whenever someone is not quite what you would like. When someone makes you feel a bit uncomfortable. When someone begins to break apart that ego sense of self that you have held on so tightly.

The ego is not always apparent. The ego makes you think you are strong, but not in all the ways that represent true strength and honor. It is a false sense of strength. You may be confident in your ability to accept challenges, and able to navigate solutions through life’s problems. You might always take on hard tasks, and have the strength to conquer the hardest of situations.

These characteristics are empowering. They are a wonderful curation of all the past traumas and hardships to create this strength.  But let me tell you this.   It is only if all this strength is backed by a sense of unwavering patience, and unconditional love that your strength can be held with honor.

There is a verse in Shakespeare’s Hamlet that says:

‘ What should be thy fear? I do not set my life in a pin’s fee. And as for my soul– what should can it do to that, being a thing as immortal as itself. It waves me forth again. I’ll follow it’

It is your strength that is bold and without swords.

Channeling Your Chi

Have you ever woke up with that sense of lightness and the feeling of energy flowing immediately.  It feels like the weight of the world has been lifted off your bones and now rests gently at your fingertips.  I never could find the words within me, an explanation behind this, but I craved the sensation. Similar to electricity in my veins, but more fluid. It’s like everything in my being is in alignment with life itself.  That feeling is the power of CHI

CHI

Call it what you will: chi, mana, prana. It is the life force within each and every being. Your personal vibration. Tuning into this life force is the essential key to harnessing a powerful force within you.  A force so strong that it manifests through everything else you do. Tapping into awareness of these frequencies requires maintaining and raising consciousness through your life. Believe it or not, it actually radiates around you, creating a sensational field of energy around you.

 

I began noticing what brought a lightness to my life. I took mental note as to what I needed to create this space to allow the chi to flow.  It became clear that the only way to keep my slate clean and ready for each moment was to sit and mediate. To choose to respectfully make the time to allow the present moment to work.  Breath work is the most simple and effective way to begin to channel your chi. I am constantly scanning my mind,body, and soul. I take each inhale and exhale to open the channels. I use to breath like yin and yang. As if on a cellular level, I am allowing all the essential nutrients in, and expelling all the unnecessary thoughts,stories, stresses. Find the balance in between the light and shadow side.

The other important practice to channeling your chi is the physical. In my personal experience, this practice is asanas of yoga. It helps me to manifest the power with my bones, muscles, joints to access all the stale energy to create new sparks every day of freshness. Each asana represents something different, releasing and manifesting. Just the same as inhale and exhale with the breath. Find a physical practice that does the same for you. With this practice, always remember that it is a sacred place for you to come to at any time without judgement and competition.

Like most things in life, it will not always be easy. You may not always want to create the space out of fear or blocks in the mind.  The most encouraging concept is the one that all energy cannot be added or deleted, but transformed. Switching from negative to positive. Renewing and channeling your power to higher potentials.

Ask yourself these questions:

What is draining you of your internal life force? Relationship,job,financial stress,material obsession, striving for perfection?

What makes you vibrate higher and louder? Passion, connection, alone time?

Do you take the time that is necessary to keep the channels open in your mind, body and soul?

With everything else in life, channeling your chi takes time to learn. Be patient with yourself. Be open. Be honest with yourself. Feel your chi release, and let the vibes flow.

 

*SAVAGE BUTTERFLIES*